Men’s lifestyles and their behaviors often place them at great risk for numerous challenges. They are prone to injury and addictions and to numerous other conditions and concerns, at every stage of their development. Historically, they also live shorter lives than women do and their mental health has consistently been an area of significant concern. Many men feel very strongly that they are constantly under tremendous pressure to produce, perform, provide and to live up to certain societal ideals. Others feel that today’s society is becoming increasingly matrifocal, that it is constantly shifting the bar in favor of women and that this shift, is in turn, constantly re-shaping men's lives.
From their youth, society and the media bombard men with messages, which suggest that they must be strong and aggressive. Yet, strength and aggression are not always viewed positively. Men, who tend to display those qualities are often characterized as violent, destructive, angry, abusive and out of control. Those mixed messages confuse some men, who, sometimes simply don’t know how to behave appropriately. Additionally, many mothers in America, some of whom were themselves raised without fathers, also raise their sons without fathers. This phenomenon, which sometimes results in role confusion, is common in the United States, which is the country with the most families that are without fathers in the world. Although many children, who are raised without fathers who play an active role in their lives, consistently present numerous social and other challenges for our society, the matter remains one that deserves far more attention than it has ever received.
Men are conditioned to think that they should never express their deepest emotions openly. They are also socialized to “take things like a man,” to never ask for help, and to embrace the idea that help-seeking, especially for psychological concerns, is associated with weakness, with a loss of power and control and instability. The result is that help-seeking among men is highly stigmatized. Some men will never seek help, unless they are in crisis or they are ordered to do so. Yet, there is a plethora of information, which affirms that when men do receive appropriate care, they can triumph over many challenges and adversities that they often face. This puts them in positions in which they can lead lives that are far less stressful, that are more productive and meaningful.
The good news is that men’s outlooks and their behaviors appear to have been changing slowly over the years. Men, today, are expressing their feelings more openly, far more than would have been expected even a decade ago, leading to the possibility of a more hopeful future for those who desire to improve. Even so, if this positive trend is to continue, it must be encouraged. Some feel it is time for boys to be socialized differently in our society, for men to be educated consistently on expected, appropriate behaviors, for them to learn how to self-soothe and manage their emotions effectively and for them to understand fully, what their roles and responsibilities are in the New Millennium. In order for this to occur, however, the “right” environment must be created - one in which men feel safe, where there is confidentially, understanding and empathy, and where they can remove their masks and express their deepest, hidden feelings and opinions freely. This is the idea behind the Men’s Mental Health Center. Whether there are concerns about their personal lives, family, work, spirituality or relationships, or, they just need a professional sounding board or a mental health tune-up, men will find it all, here, at the Men’s Mental Health Center.
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